How to make new friends as a grown-up (it's simpler than you think)

Making new friends as a grown-up isn't about being outgoing or clever. It's mostly about a few small, kind habits, repeated. Here are the ones that work.

1. Start with what you love

Friendships grow fastest around a shared interest. A run club, a book club, a pottery class, a pickleball group. You already have something to talk about, and you'll keep coming back because you enjoy it. Here are places to meet people who are into what you're into.

2. Show up again (and again)

Friendship takes time and familiarity. The first visit, you're new. By the fourth, you're a regular. Pick one thing and keep going back on the same day each week.

3. Be the one who asks

Most people would love to be invited and are just waiting for someone else to go first. "Want to grab a coffee after?" is all it takes. It's a kind thing to do for someone.

4. Ask about them

People feel close to people who are curious about them. Ask what they're into, then ask a follow-up. Here are conversation starters for every kind of person if you'd like a head start.

5. Follow up

A quick message after you meet, like "great to meet you, see you Saturday?", turns a nice chat into a plan. Small, low-pressure plans are perfect: a walk, a coffee, a game.

6. Be patient with yourself

Not every conversation turns into a friendship, and that's completely fine. Every friendly hello still makes the world a little warmer, for you and for them.

Make it easy for people to say hi

We made INTO for this. One big word in raised chenille on a soft cream crown, so the people who love what you love know what to ask. Wear it around town and let it start the conversation.

Be proud of what you're into.

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